What better way to celebrate the holiday months than going through a breakup, right? The phenomenon of “breakup season” has become reality. As the months of November and December transpire, tears fill the eyes of many. Tears as we watch some of our favorite influencer couples fall apart, tears as friends comfort one another, and tears as people experience the horrors of the breakup season first hand. No matter the age group or duration of the relationship, these months target everyone. Two months that are supposed to be filled with joy and accompanied by loved ones, have turned into a danger zone. Instead of bundling up with a significant other, performing holiday activities, or being merry, the time is spent weeping. Undoubtedly, breakups in general can be traumatizing and difficult. This is no different when it occurs during the holiday season. While one may try their best to put on a happy face and act normal, deep down their true emotions lie. No matter what the individual circumstances were, it is no coincidence that a majority of breakups occur during this time frame, so much so that the name of “breakup season” has been deemed upon it.

So, why is it that this time of year is found to be the most dangerous for couples? Even though each couple has their own reasoning, data as to why these months specifically are dangerous have been found. One cause may be that the pressure of the holiday months became overbearing and ended up causing tension within the couple. Between the activities of Thanksgiving and Christmas, this time of year is most definitely stressful. The stress is threatening as it can reveal cracks within the relationship, be mislabeled, or potentially influence someone to make rash decisions. Although, it is most unfortunate to see that the stress of it all gets to the point where couples break up because of it. Additionally, the idea of the new year upcoming pushes people to desire a fresh start. For most, new years’ resolutions come in the form of a diet, going to the gym more often, and starting healthy habits. But, some interpret it more along the lines of removing people from their life. All work as long as the decision is what is healthiest for the individual. Thirdly, there is no doubt that winter brings a sense of “depression” or the “winter uglies.” This seasonal depression challenges everyone. The summer months are looked back on with deep desire and mourning. As much as it applies to each person, it becomes even more heightened amongst a couple. If the couple were together during the summer, it is difficult to survive the winter when the summer version is in comparison. Even if the love remains bright, the winter feels as if it could easily snuff it out with one slight breeze.

Another time of the year to be aware of are the spring months of March and April. These are two more months that have additionally been reported for breakup peaks. It is said to be due to the motivation of the “spring clean effect.” The warmer weather and new routines of the new year bring in reevaluations of one’s relationships, ultimately creating this noticeable peak. 

Luckily the breakup season is a little over half way complete. If you yourself have experienced the tragedy that these months hold, I hope you accept my formal apology and that your healing journey goes smoothly. As for those who have survived so far, stay strong within your relationship, but always watch your back for November and December, and don’t forget March and April are around the corner. It is most certainly ironic that what is supposed to be the merriest time of the year has gained the poor reputation of heartbreak, but no matter what happy holidays!